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Posted on August 16, 2017

How to stay single

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This is probably going to be the shortest post I’ll ever write on this blog, the reason being that I originally intended for this to be a tweet. However, my inner satirist felt compelled to share it with a wider audience, so here are three simple steps for staying  happily single:

Step 1: Send the person you’re seeing a psycho “breakup” text when you’re menstruating

Step 2: Let the argument escalate to the point where you actually break up

Step 3: Convince yourself that it was never going to work anyways

For more sarcasm and satire, check out 12 things I learned from being on POF  🙂

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Posted on August 9, 2017

Review: Glasses Shop

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Up until recently, I would have found the prospect of purchasing prescription glasses online ludicrous. Being someone who is quite set in their ways and always hesitant when it comes to taking seemingly big risks, I would have always had to muster up a whole lot of courage to buy any sort of glasses online without having tried them on first.

So when I was approached by GlassesShop.com to do a collaboration with them on their newest styles of eyeglasses and sunglasses, I wasn’t entirely sure about what to make of it or which glasses to choose until I slowly started to fall in love with the different frames on their website. For someone who usually sticks to the simple black plastic rectangular frame, you would think the decision to choose a complimentary pair of glasses would be easy – it wasn’t.

From the cat eye look to aviator frames, I was spoiled for choice,making the decision even harder. So after bombarding different Whatsapp groups with pictures of my top ten frames – I know, that many! I finally decided on a pair that looked incredibly different to what I would normally go.

I sent on the frame details to GlassesShop.com along with my Rx and PD and within two weeks my prescription glasses arrived!

When I first tried them on, I was a bit taken aback as it was a completely new look for me. I always knew that the glasses I had been wearing until now didn’t show off my eyes enough as my eyes are quite big for someone who has a small face, so the larger frame of my new glasses really worked for me.

I was especially impressed by the fit also. I didn’t have to get any adjustments at all, they just sit perfectly on my face –  and now the more I wear them, the more they’re growing on me!

What I particularly like about shopping on GlassesShop.com is that they seem to have something for nearly everyone. There is a wide selection of styles, shapes and frames to choose from and if you are anything like me and get nervous about shopping for glasses online, then you might find their guide on how to choose the right eyeglasses incredibly helpful.

Another bonus for using this site to buy glasses online is that you can also get prescription sunglasses and all their prescription glasses come with a 90-day quality guarantee so it’s a win:win really!

I have finally gotten over my fear of buying eyeglasses online, now it’s time for you to do the same! I have a special coupon code GSHOT50  that gives you 50% off any eyeglasses or sunglasses with free lenses (with the exception of sale frames) It might just make the decision for you to buy a pair of glasses online, a little bit easier! 🙂

Disclaimer: This item was gifted to me by GlassesShop.com but all thoughts and opinions remain my own.

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Posted on July 31, 2017

5 signs you may be addicted to the gym

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When most people hear the word addiction, one of two things automatically spring to mind: drugs or alcohol. It’s easy to associate the word addiction with a substance because when we look at the top most common addictions, both drugs and alcohol rank quite high up in the echelon.

Due to the high-tech age we are currently living in, social media addiction would probably cross your mind also. As would gambling, sex, food, the list goes on really. But very much to my surprise, only a small pocket of society would even think of the prospect of exercise addiction.

I personally find it quite troubling because as a regular gym goer, I see the same faces time after time working their absolute socks off on the gym floor to achieve their fitness goals. It often makes me question whether they too are like me, and get agitated if for some reason they miss a workout.

So I’ve decided to compile a list of some indicators that you may be addicted to exercise and going to the gym.

1. You feel like it’s never enough

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No matter how intense your workout is or what milestone you hit, you never feel fully satisfied. You always crave more and you’re always hungry for more. Even seconds after completing an intense workout you are already thinking about your next one – you just feel like it’s never enough!

Solution: Your body eventually adapts to the pressure you put on it, so that desired feeling you are searching for may be unattainable. Instead of using your feelings to measure your success, measure your progress by looking at the numbers – can you carry more weights then this time last month? Can you do more cardio now? etc…

2. You’re guilt-ridden after eating ‘bad foods’

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Consuming something as little as a bar of chocolate triggers waves of guilt because you feel as though you are cheating on the gym, your diet and your workout. As a result, you end up over-training in your next session, exercising longer and harder, yet still beating yourself up over spilled milk (or spilled frappe!)

Solution: Prescribe times during the week for when you’ll allow yourself to have a cheat treat so this way you will avoid ‘falling off track.’ If going back to processed junk is a complete no for you, then why not try making your own? I have loads of recipes here.

3. You exercise more than once a day

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Asking the trainers at your gym for a weigh in and measurements every two weeks is slightly obsessive for a non athlete, since exercising isn’t something that you are being paid to do. This is probably one of the biggest tell-tale signs that you may have an addiction to working out, especially if your personal relationships are suffering from it.

Solution: Spending excessive hours in the day exercising with no rest is actually more counterproductive than you think, your body needs to recover in order for you to build muscle and have the strength that is required for you to go that extra mile during your next workout.

4. You suffer from withdrawal symptoms

You’re either at the gym or thinking about the gym. You invest so much time and energy into getting a workout done – even when you’re exhausted – that going a few days without exercise makes you agitated, moody and incredibly tense. Such extreme reactions from a lack of exercise can indicate that your body is hooked on that euphoric feeling that comes from high levels of physical activity.

Solution: Find a hobby that will not require you to move physically in order to feel accomplished or satisfied with yourself. Creative activities such as baking or writing might help keep your anxiety at bay.

5. Your social life is suffering

Your gym schedule in causing you to miss out on social gatherings and even when you do get the chance to have a human interaction with someone who isn’t part of your gym life, you find a way to turn it down because you’d rather spend the evening using the row machine than talking to actual living people outside of the gym.

Solution: Your mind and body need a break from all the hours you put into the gym. Balance and moderation is key  in life. Taking some time out to spend with your loved ones will not only be good for your body, but it will give you the peace of mind you didn’t even know you needed. 

While there are other behaviours that may indicate a definite addiction to exercise, I can say from experience that if you are exhibiting even one of these symptoms, then it is time to re-evaluate things.

Only a mental health care provider can truly tell you whether or you have an addiction, but these habits are still pretty self-destructive and could have some damaging effects in the long run.

Always look after the health of your mind, because you are your longest commitment.

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Posted on July 17, 2017

YouTube regrets & self-reflection

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Happy Monday everyone, I hope you’re all enjoying this beautiful day 🙂

I have a new video up on my channel all about YouTube regrets and whether or not I have any following the drama with my open letter. I think self-refection is absolutely vital when it comes to maintaining a healthy mind and perspective on things, so I touch a bit on the importance of sitting with yourself and tuning in with your mind.

I hope you enjoy this video, and be sure to watch till the end as I will be showing you my giveaway products! 🙂

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Posted on July 14, 2017

Egg-free protein pancakes

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A few months back I got a food intolerance test done for my skin. I was told I needed to avoid eggs, wheat and yeast to prevent my breakouts. It came as such a shock to me because there was a time in my life where I couldn’t imagine going a day without eating eggs – I absolutely loved them, and I still do. If you cooked up a dippy egg in front of me, a little part of me would probably break. However, I did eliminate eggs from my diet and I noticed a significant change in my skin.

And now,with the realisation that the big 30 is only around the corner, I’ve decided to start taking my diet more seriously. I’m slowly cutting out wheat and yeast from my diet and started taking a plant-based protein supplement also. I chose a pea protein powder because milk products don’t always agree with my body.

All in all, I am more serious about health this year than I ever was. If I didn’t like red meat so much I would likely be vegan, but I’m not sure I am quite ready for such a commitment just yet – baby steps! 🙂

So this recipe is me moving in a slow pace towards a healthier body, mind and soul:

Ingredients:

  • 300ml warm water
  • 2 tbsp milled chia seed
  • 250ml almond milk
  • 75g honey
  • 2 tbsp coconut oil
  • 2 tbsp vanilla essence
  • 250g quinoa flour
  • 2 scoops protein powder (I use Pulsin Pea Protein)

Method:

1. Mix the water and chia seeds in a bowl and set aside until it thickens.

2. In a separate bowl, whisk the coconut oil and honey.

3. While waiting for the chia seed mixture to coagulate, measure in the remaining dry ingredients.

4. At this point, the chia seed mixture should be ready. Add it to the bowl of honey and coconut oil and then fold in the dry ingredients. Whisk it up and gradually add in milk until the batter has your preferred thickness.

5. Grease a pan with an oil or butter of your choosing, I like to use this avocado oil spread.

6. Pour ladlespoons of the batter on your pan until you get through it all (makes about large pancakes 7)

7. Stack up and top up using your favourite toppings! Enjoy 🙂

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Posted on July 10, 2017

Do us bloggers have a blogger complex?

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Hello everyone, hope you are all having a good Monday! 🙂

I have a new video that I wanted to share with you guys about something I like to call the #BloggerComplex – a term I like to use to describe the mentality and attitudes developed by some* bloggers after having been part of the blogging industry for while i.e sense of self entitlement, inflated ego and so on and so forth!

It’s all a bita fun so I hope you enjoy it 🙂

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Posted on July 6, 2017

Win!!! Over €50 worth of Neutrogena Skincare products

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THIS GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED. THE WINNER IS EMMA LEAH MULLAN! THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO TOOK PART AND DO KEEP AN EYE OUT ON THE BLOG FOR MORE COMPETITIONS TO COME 🙂

My go-to makeup remover at the moment is the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Gelee Milk. I first featured it in my April monthly favourites a while back, and I have since then remained loyal to this multi-purpose cleanser.

I like the technology behind it and how it combines the lightness of a gel with the efficacy of a makeup remover milk to give the skin that healthy glow. So today, I’ve decided that one of my lucky readers ought to enjoy the skin benefits of this brand too by running a Neutrogena giveaway worth over €50!

The chosen winner will receive the following:

Hydro Boost water gel €14.99 & Hydro Boost gel-cream €14.99

Hydro Boost Cleanser €7.49 & Micella Water €7.49

Hydro Boost Facial Wipes €5.50

To be in with a chance of winning all of this, you must do the following:

  1. Follow @filomenakaguako on Twitter
  2. Follow @filomenakaguako on Instagram
  3. Subscribe to Filomena Kaguako on Youtube
  4. Like @enhancewhatsyours on Facebook

You can retweet, repost or comment as many times as you like 🙂 Here are the T&C’s:

Terms & Conditions:

You must be a resident of Ireland. If you are under 18, you must consent from your parents to enter this competition as the winner will be required to give me their address in order to have the prize sent out to them. There will be one winner. This person will have 24hours to claim their prize, otherwise another winner will be chosen in their place. Giveaway ends on 20th July.

Best of luck to everyone who decides to partake in this giveaway, may the odds be in your favour 🙂

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Posted on July 1, 2017

Sex On The Green

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I’ve been sitting on this video for about two weeks at this stage. Hemming and hawing about whether or not to go live with it. But today, I’ve finally found the courage to show you guys my latest project. This is something I’ve been meaning to launch for quite a while now and I realised if I don’t do it now, I’ll never do it so here it is…..

Sex On The Green is a new five part series that I’ll be launching on my YouTube channel in mid-July. The series revolves around me questioning people on St. Stephen’s Green about different taboos related to sex and dating. The conflicting viewpoints people have when it comes to sex and dating have always intrigued me. This interest grew particularly strong during my year of celibacy, when I received a surprising amount of negativity for choosing to abstain from sex for twelve months.

My growing fascination with societal attitudes towards dating paired with my desire to break the stigmas attached to people’s sexual choices led to the birth of Sex On The Green and I hope that in opening up a healthy discourse about the things we often talk about in a shameful way, it will help break the stigmas attached to people’s sexuality.

I had so much fun filming this video, so I hope you enjoy watching it as much as I enjoyed making it! 🙂 A massive thank you to Kassi from www.justkassi.com for helping me with the videography! All feedback is welcomed x

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Posted on June 26, 2017

New pride flag: divisive or inclusive?

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I think it’s a really good idea, as inclusive as you can be! Because you wanna represent everybody and pride is all about including people and making people be happy with themselves

I recently discovered that a new pride flag was launched in Philadelphia in an attempt to fight racism and recognise LGBT people of colour. As it stands, the universal rainbow flag has six colours, each having their own separate meaning: life (red), healing (orange), sunlight (yellow), nature (green), serenity (blue) and spirit (violet).

In the redesigned rainbow flag, the colours black and brown have been added to include people of colour who feel they are under-represented in the gay community. Personally, I would have thought that the colour red (symbolising life) represented people in the LGBT community of all backgrounds and ethnicities especially since the original colours on the flag do not signify race.

However, I am a straight black woman so I don’t really think it’s my place to comment on any modifications to a flag that isn’t mine. So the curious cat in me took it upon herself to ask people of the LGBTQ+ community in Dublin what their thoughts are on this variation of the gay pride flag.

Here are some of the responses….

It has nothing to do with racial identity at all

 

I’m really iffy on it

 

Whatever flag you want is whatever flag you use

 

Pride is for everyone, it’s not race exclusive

 

I think it’s an absolutely positive development

 

I don’t think sexuality is about race, that’s a separate issue

Mainly the LGBT movement is about sexuality and freedom

 

Have you any thoughts on this variation of the rainbow flag? Comment below or tweet me @FilomenaKaguako 🙂

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Posted on June 19, 2017

POSITIVE RESPONSES TO MY OPEN LETTER

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Happy Monday everyone! I have a new video up on my YouTube channel about some of the positive responses I got to my open letter.

In the midst of all the drama and controversy, I did get a few kind and supportive messages from men and women of all ages and races which I thought would be worth mentioning. Some of these nearly had me in tears! <3

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    4. Straightening things out with Chris & Ciara! https://soundcloud.com/rte2fm/chris-and-ciara-filomena-kaguako June 6th 2017: I spoke to my favourite duo about some of the backlash my open letter received after it went viral. Catch up on my other interviews during my 'PR scandal' over here. 3. Reading my open letter on air! https://soundcloud.com/rte2fm/chris-and-ciara-an-open-letter-to-irish-men May…
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Posted on June 12, 2017

Coping with bad publicity

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There was a time in my life where I believed all publicity was good publicity.

But after having been at the receiving end of non-stop hatemail and reading barbaric headlines about myself that just aren’t true. I have to say, I feel very differently about that now.

The last two weeks have been an absolute roller coaster for me – I got my first hit with the tabloids and I’ve really struggled to come to terms with it all. My initial reaction was to relocate to a non-English speaking country and never come back.  How could an open letter expressing hurt and pain have turned into something so ugly?

Two words: bad journalism

Now I can sit here and moan about how I was played by the media and make myself out to be a helpless victim. But I won’t do that. I refuse to give people who fish for ways to ruin the lives of others for their own personal gain the satisfaction of thinking they can silence my voice when they can’t.

So instead, I am going to focus on the positive because I genuinely do believe that some disappointments are a blessing in disguise and if my experience over the last few days has taught me anything, it is that.

The day the fake news about my open letter started circulating the tabloids I was approached by a number of women’s magazines who were genuinely interested in getting to know me and what prompted me to write the open letter.

A number of radio stations also asked to interview me, but because I was so overwhelmed by what was going on I wasn’t up for some it at the time. Thankfully, I have  since then been given the chance to speak on national radio about the backlash over the last few weeks, giving me the opportunity to set the record straight.

But what I learned the most about this humbling experience is that there are still good people out there and sometimes, it only takes one person to restore your faith in humanity. I do not believe that the racist trolls and the Debbie Downers represent the vast majority of people in the world and I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who showed me love and support during this difficult time. Especially to the journalists who actually did their jobs right (surely I’m allowed to throw shade once?)

I will be doing a video on my YouTube channel towards the end of the week about some of the positive reactions I got to my open letter, as I have come to the realisation that I’ve been heavily focused on the negative (it was hard not to).

So keep an eye on my channel and don’t forget to subscribe!

To catch up on my radio interviews, check out the press page on my blog as they should clear everything up for you guys! I feel like I’m finally moving on from this, and I’ve even started working on my next few projects – I want to say they won’t cause as much as a stir. But who would I be if I didn’t cause a little bit of  drama? 😉

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Posted on May 31, 2017

5 simple exercises to help ease lower back pain

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From a young enough age,  I accepted that chronic back pain will always be an issue for me.  I first became accustomed to lower back pain around the time when I started menstruating and it has since then became such a normal part of my life. I have now gotten into the habit of practising my own stretches and exercises at home to ease up any tension whenever I feel a bit crampy.

Of course, I am no fitness expert (please see disclaimer below). Being a regular gym goer and attending fitness classes has helped me pin down which exercises work best for my back pain so here are some of the simple exercises that I do at home whenever my back starts to act up:

Cobra stretch

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Directions:

  1. Lie flat on the floor with your tummy facing down and both legs extended.
  2. Tuck your hands and elbows at the side of your body and the push your torso upwards while taking in deep breaths.
  3. Ensure your hands are placed directly under your shoulders and only arch your back as much as it’s comfortable.
  4. Hold for about 15 seconds or more and then slowly lower yourself back down while exhaling.

Bird dog stretch

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Directions:

  1. Position yourself on your hands and knees while keeping the spine neutral (no arch).
  2. Extend one leg back and the opposite arm straight ahead.
  3. Hold for about 10 second, or as long as comfortable.
  4. Repeat five or six times on each side.

Floor knee-to-chest 

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Directions:

  1. Lie flat on your back with your legs straight.
  2. Using both hands, pull one knee up towards your chest while keeping the other foot flat on the ground.
  3. Hold your knee firmly against your chest and keep your lower back pressed to the floor.
  4. Hold for about 15 seconds and then repeat with the opposite leg.

Floor bridge

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Directions:

  1. Lie flat on your back with your knees bent and your arms by your side.
  2. Slowly raise your hips off the floor keeping your feet flat and contracting your glutes as you go.
  3. Hold for 5 to 10 seconds and then slowly release.
  4. Repeat about 10 times or more.

Wall plank (yoga pose)

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Directions:

  1. Start standing facing a wall.
  2. Reach the wall with your straightened hands and slowly bending them forward and downwards.
  3. Lengthen your spine as much as possible and if you feel any pain, slightly bend your knees.
  4. Maintain this pose for about 30 seconds while breathing deeply.

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Disclaimer: This is not a substitute for professional medical advice, I am simply sharing some of the exercises that I tend to find helpful for myself. Always seek advice from a health professional or physician before trying any exercise at home because no two people are the same, if it works for me that doesn’t necessarily mean that it will work for you!

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