Anyone who has ever flirted with the idea of using online dating as a means of finding a partner would undoubtedly corroborate my words: it is slim pickings out there. While I have been quite fortunate with the vast majority of dates I’ve had (which contrary to what some of you may think have been few or far in between) I still recognise that the world of modern dating has become an absolute minefield.
If you’re not yet familiar with my sentiments towards the likes of Plenty of Fish and Tinder, then I implore you to read 12 things I’ve learned from being on POF and then watch my YouTube video titled 5 things Irish guys should never say to a black girl on Tinder (gotta love a shameless plug in).
A less popular dating app, yet one I would consider to be of better quality than the aforementioned two, surfaced the modern dating sphere towards the end of 2014. Social networking app, Bumble can be used for business purposes (Bumble Bizz), finding new friends (Bumble BFF) or for dating (Bumble Date).
While I do feel that it ranks quite high in the echelon of dating apps, it often gets a bad rap for being a ‘feminist dating app.’ Why? Because in all heterosexual matches, it is up to the woman to message the guy first.
Make of this what you will, but I personally think it is an excellent idea. It is one of the reasons I was drawn to Bumble in the first place. Putting the power in the hands of the woman means we don’t have to worry about getting bombarded by the weird and creepy messages that many of us would have experienced on other apps. I also think it can be pretty beneficial to men who are shy and a bit inexperienced in the dating realm.
Of course, I can’t speak for men but when I’ve asked male Bumble users about their thoughts on this set up, the general consensus seemed to be that women didn’t make a huge effort in the first text. This wouldn’t exactly start things off in an exciting way and would often lead to the usual small talk which let’s be honest, many of us are jaded by at this point.
Worst case scenario for the woman? Not getting a reply at all.
Bearing this in mind, I’ve decided to compile a list of creative ways women can get the ball rolling on Bumble. So without further ado, here at 10 ways you can get a text back on Bumble in 2019 🙂
1. Always start with a question that isn’t ‘how are you?’
Using the info you pull from their bio is always effective *wink* *wink*
2. Hone in on that common interest
Can’t fault a gal for not showing a bit of passion!
3. Massage that male ego
Men and their egos, huh?
4. Fetishise him
Just kidding. But speaking of fetishes
5. You could also shake things up a bit by instilling paranoia
Turns out we went to the same college – boring.
6. Make up a chat up line by pulling from his profile
Cheesy, but it works!
7. ALWAYS acknowledge pet animals
This seems like a given.
8. A bitta banter never hurt anyone
To which I responded ‘nothing but the best’
9. The Neil Strauss ‘neg’ approach
For those of you who don’t know, a neg is akin to a back-handed compliment.
10. But try not to take it too far ladies as it might lead to him cutting off all ties…
And another one bits the dust.
What are some of the things you’ve done to try and get a text back on Bumble? I would love to know! tweet me @FilomenaKaguako 🙂
- 10000Dating. I’ve never really been a fan of the term. Not only do I think it’s very American, but the word itself makes me incredibly awkward. Whenever I hear the word date, I automatically picture two strangers sitting in close proximity to one another in an often controlled environment: uncomfortable body…